Sixteen with a rare outcome. A mother that cares.

Modification of life for a family as a whole.

Gave warnings and it was not listen too.

I  am a mother of two girls and a step mother to my step daughter. I gave the talk of the birds and bees to all three. One listened and one did not and the step daughter” Well that is a whole different story”. Surprise surprise it was the second child that did not listen. My step daughter is the oldest at 19 years old which has her own mind set her way. My Oldest is now 18 years old and swears abstinence. My daughter second is 15 years old and swore no children due to the fact she hated baby sitting her two younger cousins.

First warning social pressure

Pecking orders pressure to have some sort of relationship from peers with peers. It is a worst fear for any mother. Generally it goes against what a mother says with the knowledge of what is right from wrong and the chances of what really will happen.

Second warning all scenarios that could happen.

Rape, unplanned pregnancy, stalkers, vengeance from jealousy of others, Hate crimes, superiority complex, sex, drugs and alcohol.. Lost of attention on grade and cares.

Which in turn had the talk about Birds and bees and the emotions that love to join in to confuse the mix. Hormone changes and try to keep into check.

Third warning morality

Got girls involved with church.

A mothers emotions:

A mother emotions though these changes in does not help. Puberty of children also changes the hormone factor for any mother to tolerate the indifference from their children.

Lost of trust

Hate

Disbelief

Wonderment and what and how they was even thinking at all.

Memories of self and scenarios that happened in their own past and reflecting had these same miss-conceptions occur to their own children current lives. Reflection of asked for it, shame, dirt, unworthy, humility, lose of confidence. Reflection of other actions that could and have occurred before.:Superiority of other thinking they know how to handle better and the desire to take over. “my own belief that every mother deserves to be a first time mother and no person should have the right to take that away just because they have had children before or that think that they are older and wiser and deserve to take care of another. Richer or poorer does not matter on that decision either.” I am believer in family support but not the right to intrusion into other personal affairs of self contained family. Faith to always try to improve ones life and the chose to have that choice of which type of life.

I am going to be a grandmother by June 12, 2011 and a step grand mother August28, 2011. We will see which of these grand children I will really be the MOM or which I will be just a MOM for which daughter? Either way, I will probably be a baby sister with motherly informational choices for help and most possibly at the most unopportunity moment.

Rape victim desides to give child to her own parents. Parents accept that responsiblity, but with knowledge and awareness of openness of possible changes in daughter's desicion for she is the real MOM that had to make that choose in the first place. Decisions are not to be forced one way or the other. The decision just made when it needs to be made for the best at that period.